~*unapologetically hideous*~

lunaradvent:

I really love all cats: Why do Social Justice Warriors Only Focus on “Sexist” Costumes for Females, but not for Males.

wintugo-nasty:

lunaradvent:

justthinkingaboutcatsagain:

lunaradvent:

I saw far more bulky/muscle-y male costumes on male children at the zoo than “sexy” costumes on girls.

lol look what I found on the misandry tag

because young boys wearing fake muscles is the same thing as young girls being sexy. It’s certainly not making young boys feel…

I love how you just completely ignored my point. No one is saying that women are less in danger (I doubt anyone is in danger, tbh). ]

My point (which you would have saw if you weren’t drunk on the crayade) is that in spite of what social justice warriors say boys are also objectified via their costumes. The same way that a girl’s cuteness is accentuated (via a dress? are you serious; that is heterocentric but not sexism; it’s not like they have padded bra uniforms although I’m sure those exist somewhere) is similar to how a boy’s “manliness”/muscly-ness is emphasized with the costumes with fake muscles. 

And btw, girls can also wear those exact copies costumes without stigma, but if a boy wore the skirt/dress costumes he would be stigmatized so don’t ignore that tidbit of heterosexist misandry.

P.S. The point, fair simpleton, is not that girls are objectified less than boys, but that boys are also significantly objectified.

It’s not objectification, it’s a power fantasy. When the boys put on those big muscle costumes, it’s not about being sexy (or imitating adult sexiness, as the case may be) - it’s about being powerful. Boys get the big muscles because the superheroes have big, strong muscles that they use to smash the bad guys. Girls get the sexy, barely-there costumes because society says their bodies are made to be looked at. Big difference. 

“Girls get the sexy, barely-there costumes because society says their bodies are made to be looked at.”

What sites do you look at? The costumes geared toward girls are mostly not “barely-there”. There are slutty costumes geared towards women (not girls), but those are not the majority of what’s advertised (unless you are looking for it). Even the “sexy” costumes that all the social justice warriors are linking to are actually pretty covering, except for that ONE with the bite taken out of it. After all, don’t forget that there are male costumes out there that show even more flesh than women costumes. Both slutty outfits for women and men are in the minority, not the majority.

Also, you really need to do some research. Objectification is more than just sexual objectification. Women in the US tend to be more obviously objectified on the basis of their sexual appeal/attractiveness. However, men in the US tend to be more obviously objectified on the basis of their strength and power (via the muscles). 

Don’t forget that while women (esp. in US past) have been chosen as worthy due to their level of attractiveness (looks, “purity”, amiable personality, etc.), men (esp. in US past) have been chosen as worthy due to their level of power (e.g. financial security, physical strength, sexual stamina, etc.)

Objectification is objectification, regardless of if its on the basis of sexiness/attractiveness or strength/power.

Girls get the sexy, barely-there costumes because society says their bodies are made to be looked at. Big difference. 

Society says that women’s (not little girls) bodies should be sexy, but what you ignore is that society also says that men should be powerful either through financial success or physical force.

And btw, I found all children costumes to have been made to be cute, including boy costumes. The reason why girl costumes tend to have skirts (ignoring for a moment that there are costumes for girls without skirts while there are no costumes for boys with skirts) is not due to objectification, but due to heterosexism: i.e. skirts/dresses for girls and shorts/pants for boys.

Even if we assumed you were right about girls costumes being designed for cuteness (you aren’t, except maybe for very young girls’ costumes, which I don’t think is what anyone is upset about - walk into a Spirit store and check out the costumes marketed toward girls over the age of about 7 or 8 into the “tween” demographic and I guarantee you’ll be ooked out by how “sexy” everything is for girls that could be as young as 3rd grade), I’ve already done my research: being seen as powerful is the opposite of objectification. You can’t be objectified based on how powerful you are presumed to be, because by mere virtue that you are presumed to have power, you are no longer just an object! Power is autonomy and ability and agency, and those are the antithesis of objectification. Being physically powerful is also not the only option that men have to be judged worthwhile, like you said - intelligence, money, sexual prowess, advanced skills, etc. can all stand on their own as markers of worth for men. With women (and girls, by extension) what you do rarely matters if you aren’t adequately attractive while you do it (Fun exercise: name a female equivalent of Steve Buscemi who has been equally successful). I’m not saying that idealizing muscles and physical power is totes cool, but don’t confuse it with objectification. Batman is a lot more than his appearance. This is not. 

Now, if you want to argue that costumes are gender normative (which is what I think you mean when you say “heterosexist”, and I really promise I’m not trying to be a jerk when I tell you you’re using “heterosexist” wrong - heterosexism is the assumption that heterosexuality is and should be the default, whereas gender normativity is the notion that men should be “masculine” and women should be “feminine”), be my guest, because they totally are! However, while it is definitely shitty that a boy can’t wear a frilly strawberry shortcake costume without fear of ridicule while a girl can slip on a costume sold for boys and be just fine, the reason behind that is because the female status is viewed as lesser. Girls that put on a boys’ costume are just putting on the “normal” costume, because what is “male” is the default (take that cookie monster example - the boys get a costume that looks like the NORMAL cookie monster, while girls get a “cute” adaptation). If a boy puts on a dress, he’s taking a step down.

Just for the purposes of example, here are the splash pages for children’s (CHILDREN’S, not toddlers) costumes from Party City, one of the major retailers.
The boys:



They’re all about action! They get to be cool, gross, creepy, funny, powerful, scary, skilled, and dexterous. How about the girls?

 

I see… pretty? While they’re not all ridiculously oversexed (the marketing team would know better than to do that on the online splash page anyway, since parents are the buyers online), the overarching theme of these costumes is still little but being attractive. Sounds like the short end of the stick to me.

Can “I’m an intersectionalist” be a thing?

Is it already a thing? If it is, can I join the party? Because I feel the term “feminism” alone lacking, and listing off the various movements I also support as if they’re merit badges feels stupid to me. “Intersectionalist” seems like a good term as it acknowledges a commitment to act for the betterment of life for people of all under-privileged statii (as opposed to just white wimmins of high standing or w/e), and acknowledges that some groups may have an effect on others re: privilege without doing that stupid thing where someone goes “hey man everyone has struggles”. Idk, good idea?

I wish I could carry a stamp around both the internet and real life that said “K, u wrong doe”

Embiggen

“Society recognizes the ways people are different and assigns group membership based on these differences; at the same time, society also ranks the differences and institutionalizes them into the fabric of society… This implies that meanings associated with difference exist beyond the intentions of individual people. These rankings of groups and their members create a hierarchy in which some ways of being, like being abled or heterosexual, are valued more than others, like being disabled or gay or lesbian.”  - Susan Shaw and Janet Lee, Women’s Voices, Feminist Visions 4th Ed.

Whew! That was a lot of photoshopping! I miss the days when I could just whip out InDesign, but sadly, I gave up on the honest pursuit of graphic design and now I wander into back alleys and draft up bootleg charts and sell black market post-processed photos out of my trenchcoat.Anyway, here is  The Intersecting Axes of Privilege, Domination, and Opression, lifted from my old Women’s Studies textbook with full attribution. I could have just scanned it in from the textbook, but it appears that I spilled chocolate syrup on it. Plus I plan to simplify it momentarily for use with a younger audience. Very helpful in discussions of privilege! Enjoy! 

Embiggen

“Society recognizes the ways people are different and assigns group membership based on these differences; at the same time, society also ranks the differences and institutionalizes them into the fabric of society… This implies that meanings associated with difference exist beyond the intentions of individual people. These rankings of groups and their members create a hierarchy in which some ways of being, like being abled or heterosexual, are valued more than others, like being disabled or gay or lesbian.” 
 - Susan Shaw and Janet Lee, Women’s Voices, Feminist Visions 4th Ed.

Whew! That was a lot of photoshopping! I miss the days when I could just whip out InDesign, but sadly, I gave up on the honest pursuit of graphic design and now I wander into back alleys and draft up bootleg charts and sell black market post-processed photos out of my trenchcoat.

Anyway, here is  The Intersecting Axes of Privilege, Domination, and Opression, lifted from my old Women’s Studies textbook with full attribution. I could have just scanned it in from the textbook, but it appears that I spilled chocolate syrup on it. Plus I plan to simplify it momentarily for use with a younger audience. Very helpful in discussions of privilege! Enjoy! 

Or do we actually live in a fascist state now

I keep seeing post after post about unnecessary arrests, police brutality, and general police misconduct at the Occupy protests… but is anything actually being done about it anywhere?

jesseyuggo:

suzyxisntreal:

paperjay:

sharvondaphotog:

Kai’s “controversial” poem. This topic I can definitely relate to as someone who was told in high school that I “act white” because I got straight A’s, and in college, “I thought you were stupid until you spoke” because I’m black. (Had to compress it all crazy to get it to upload to Tumblr. It had to be removed from “other outlets” due to verbal content. But what happens on Tumblr, stays on Tumblr.) … ;-) 

god can i marry this person

I think I wanna be your best friend, yeah

I HATE it when people ask me, “Oh, so you think you so fancy ‘cause you read the news and use big words?”

Oh my bad, sorry I don’t give a shit about trivial things but if you do, that’s cool because that’s your decision and I totally respect that.